Storytelling: Inside out: Transgender stories: OHSU's transgender health program

Bud Feuless, 54, was 50 when she started her transition. Feuless and her wife, now married 35 years, had a period of adjustment as her wife went through "grieving process as she realized she was losing the husband she had had, and now maybe gaining a different partner." The couple have stayed together by focusing on two key priorities: "keeping me alive and keeping ourselves, our marriage happy. Those have worked great for us. It’s helped keep me from getting too focused on things like passing—is my voice right, are my mannerisms right? It’s allowed me to just be me. To just be myself and be happy with that. To make choices that help keep us happy."

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